‘Loving and Remembering’ – remembrance service

A non-denominational service for comfort… healing… and peace in memory of your child lost during pregnancy – for any reason.

I lost a child about three years ago but I had never grieved. I didn’t know how.

Arranged by Open Doors Counselling
Phone: (03) 9870 7044 or Freecall (outside Melbourne) 1800 647 995

Who is welcome?
This remembrance service is for anyone grieving the loss of an unborn child for whatever reason – ectopic pregnancy, IVF losses, miscarriage, abortion or stillbirth. Parents, siblings, other family members and friends are welcome.

What happens?
In a quiet and gentle way, the service allows you to focus on the love you have for your lost child.  Your grief is acknowledged through readings, reflections, songs and prayers.

The service is held in the memorial garden at Open Doors (weather permitting) and allows for you to be involved as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Your privacy is fully respected.  You are free to choose readings and/or songs that have special meaning for you.

During the service we invite you to write your child’s name on a card with any ‘words of love’.  What you have written will remain confidential. These cards will be prayerfully placed in the memorial garden at Open Doors, which you might like to come back to visit. You may like to bring a small personal memento to place with your card.

A booklet for you to keep will be created especially for your service.  Following the service we invite you to stay for a cuppa and, if you wish, to spend time with our counsellors.

There is no charge for this service however you may like to make a donation to Open Doors in memory of your child.

A fully prepared Order of Service is also available for ministers, celebrants and hospital chaplains to conduct services for individuals and has been requested for use around Australia over many years (see Catalogue).

For further enquiries contact Open Doors.

Phone: (03) 9870 7044 or Freecall (outside Melbourne) 1800 647 995 or email info@opendoors.com.au

What is it like?
A participant tells:

“I lost a child about three years ago through an abortion. I had never grieved, I didn’t know how. Then I was told about the Remembrance Service at Open Doors and my grieving period had begun.  I chose a poem and music I loved.  When I was ready I wrote my unborn child’s name on a little white card. I had written my child’s name for the first time on that little white card with a message only we will share.

I placed the card in a basket with flowers and I received a flower in return, which throughout the rest of the service, to me, represented my child. I was holding my child for the first and last time. That’s when my grieving started. I could suddenly cry for my child and for myself.

For me it was the turning point I needed to rest all my feelings and mixed up emotions. To start life with my family, but never forget that loved one I leave behind.”

Open Doors Counselling
Grief associated with pregnancy loss (through miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, abortion, IVF and stillbirth) can be a lonely experience. Sometimes it helps to talk it through. Skilled and caring listeners can help ease the pain of hidden or unresolved grief. Specialist counselling and support is low cost and confidential. Low cost grief therapy provided by psychotherapists is also available.

NEED TO TALK?  Click here to request a contact from one of our counsellors

On the Contact Form tell us your phone number (Australia only), the best day and time for us to call you, and let us know if it’s ok to leave a message should you not be able to answer the phone.  A counsellor will call by the next business day during Centre opening hours (Mon: 9.30-8.00pm; Tues, Wed, Thur: 9.30-3.00pm. Closed public holidays.) You can also request an appointment for face to face counselling or just ask a question.

5 Greenwood Ave Ringwood. 3134
Ph: (03) 9870 7044
Freecall outside Melbourne 1800 647 995

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