I’m Pregnant – What are my choices?

Single Parenting?  – Abortion? – Adoption? – Marriage or Commitment to the baby’s father?


Finding out you are unexpectedly pregnant can toss up a whole mix of emotions for you – panic, shock, excitement, fear, wonder, amazement, anxiety. You’ve landed on a roller coaster. No wonder it’s hard to think straight!

But to make a good decision about your pregnancy, you need to do just that – focus your brain and pull out of the emotional swirl. Take charge. After all, this decision is for life, no matter what you choose.


You owe it to yourself to make an informed decision about the options available to you: single parenting, abortion, adoption or marriage/commitment to the baby’s father.  You need to consider your thoughts, feelings and reactions about each of these options.

Take some ‘me time’ and use the guide below to help you quietly think through your situation.

You may also wish to seek counselling from someone who is not emotionally involved. Open Doors counsellors are non-directive and specially trained to support you both before and after you make your decision. Phone or go to our Contact Form to get in touch.


Thinking about my choices:

Grab a large sheet of paper or jump on the computer.

Step 1. Write down each of these headings across the top – Single Parenting, Abortion, Adoption, Marriage/Commitment to the baby’s father. 

Step 2. Under each heading, write down your responses to the questions below.

Step 3. Compare your responses.

Questions to Consider –

– How am I feeling right now about each option?

– What is my greatest fear about each option?

– What are, or might be, the responses of:

  • the baby’s father to each option?
  • my parents?
  • my older children?
  • my friends?
  • my employer?
  • my school?

– What are my supports in each case?

– How do I feel about each option?

– How might I cope with each choice:

  • emotionally?
  • mentally?
  • physically?
  • spiritually?

– What might be the practical aspects of each decision:

  • work?
  • financial?
  • social?
  • future goals?

– How do you think you may feel about each choice in the future?

– What is good about being pregnant?

– What is not good about being pregnant?

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