"I can handle that" - Our capacity to handle disappointment, failure and change is the key to managing the ups and downs that are part of everyday life for all of us. The tendency for the current generation of parents to try and protect children from negative experiences makes it harder for children to build this capacity.
Immunise against depression - High levels of depression and anxiety amongst young people (where linked to negative life events, not illness or medication) can be addressed by:
Practical skills include teaching children and young people how to:
Capacity not avoidance - A resilient personality is not immune from experiencing problems in life, but he or she has the capacity to proactively tackle those problems. With each experience of tackling a problem, the child develops capacity for handling the next.
Resilience not risk taking – adolescents who act out with alcohol, sex, drugs or other means tend to do so because they have no other means of dulling emotional pain or confusion. A resilient person is less likely to fall back on risk taking as a response to difficulty.
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The Optimistic Child
"As with immunisation against physical disease, there is an understanding that the disease of depression can be prevented through encouraging a sense of optimism and personal mastery."