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1. Commitment is an Ideal.
Commitment is actually an experience as real as driving a car. If you
are not sure that you are committed, then it is a sign that you are not.
You will know when you are.
2. There are degrees or levels of commitment.
Commitment is either there or not. There is no such thing as being a
little committed or very committed; only totally committed.
3. Commitment is something
you make as long as the relationship meets a need.
Commitment is what you make to someone when you feel that they are the
only one for you. If you get into a relationship for a “reason” or
“need” then once you have solved that reason or need there is no reason
or need for the relationship.
4. Commitment can be made
for certain time periods.
Commitment is done in the spirit of FOREVER.
5. You can be committed to
more than one person.
Commitment reads “not available”. This means not available to anyone
other than the person to whom you are committed.
6. Commitment means that
all your needs will be met.
Commitment means that at times, you can be selfless enough to make your
partner’s needs more important than your own. People who can do this
have a strong grasp of who they are, how to get their own needs met and
know how to set limits, say “no” and stay true to themselves.
7. Commitment is easy and
can be made with words.
Commitment means that in your heart and mind and in private or public,
your behaviour makes the statement that you are your partner’s man or
woman. This calls for your ego to be less important than your partner’s
need to tell you how bad they feel about something you have done, even
if this means having to be wrong or looking foolish. At times commitment
can be a hard slog.
8. One person can make a
commitment work.
Commitment means that you love your partner so much that you are able to
make their needs more important than your own and you are prepared to
occasionally be in a state of discomfort for the sake of their comfort.
It is important that this willingness to sacrifice is reciprocal.
9. Anyone can make a
commitment.
Having read the real meaning of commitment it may be clear that not
everyone is capable, especially when it requires the ability to be
responsible for yourself and, at the same time, be selfless enough to
make your partner’s needs more important than your own.
10. Commitment isn’t worth
the trouble.
The ability to commit can bring enormous rewards and put you on a higher
plane.
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